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To Be Friends Or Not To Be Friends. The best secret to raising children isn't what to do, but what not to do. Do not act like their friend. You can be loving, you can be caring, but you are not their "friend, " per se! You are an authority figure, and you must remain thus! Many parents make the mistake of treating their children as if they're friends, which leads to confusion in the child's mind when situations call for discipline. Stay the authoritarian but always exercise law with mercy. 育儿的最大秘诀不在于做什么， 而在于不做什么。别表现得跟他们是朋友似的。你可以表示你的关爱、关心， 但就本身而言你不是他们的“朋友”。你是（家庭中的）权威人物，你得保持如此。很多父母会犯这样的错误：他们以对待朋友的方式来对待孩子，这在一些需要纪律的情况下，会导致孩子头脑中的混淆。保持权威状态， 但永远宽容执法。 Discipline Is The Cornerstone Of Love And Protection. 纪律是爱和保护的基石 It is important that kids are raised with discipline and that they understand that discipline is a parent's way of showing them that they are loved and deserve to be protected from harm. 纪律在育儿过程中很重要，孩子们明白纪律是父母用于显示他们是被爱的、值得被保护而免受伤害的方式。 Spend Extra Time With Your Kids. 花额外时间陪伴孩子 The best way to raise kids is to make sure that you spend time with them. This does not mean you have to be their best friend, but just share in their activities. The child will thank you when they are older. 培养孩子最好的方法是一定要花时间和他们在一起。这并不表示你一定得成为他们最好的朋友，只是一同分享活动的乐趣。等孩子长大时，他们会感谢你。 At The End Of The Day You Are Still The Hero. 最终你仍是英雄 When raising kids, remember that no mater how mad they are at you, you are your kids' hero. Act as you would like them to act and do not argue in front of them. Give them a wonderful wold to live in, just like you wanted to 培育孩子时，切记不管他们对你发多大的脾气，你是你孩子们的英雄。表现出你希望他们多活动，不要当着他们的面争吵。给他们一片正如你所期望的精彩的成长天地。 Get Down And Dirty. 亲身体验 Let your children explore and get dirty. They have to find out for themselves that mud is cool and messy. 让你的孩子们去探索，去体验，要让他们自己发现泥巴是冷且脏的东西。 Use Music To Soothe and Satisfy. 用音乐来抚慰和说服 Expose your baby to music early. Then you can use music for every occasion. It could be used from anything from helping sooth to having a dance party. 让你的孩子尽早接触音乐。你可以把音乐用在任何场合。它可以用于任何事，缓解疲劳、办舞会，等等。 Kids Are 'Little' People Too. 孩子也是“小”人 One of my secrets to raising kids is that I have to remember that they are people too. They are different then me, and not as experienced as me. It is my job to teach them as people. 我育儿的秘诀之一是我必须记住他们也是人。他们是不同的个体，并且没我这么经历丰富。把他们当大人般地教导是我的职责。 When Parents Are Happy Everybody Is Happy. 父母高兴，大家高兴 I have a five and seven year old daughters who while they are the light of my life, are a ton of work. I was told by my doctor that the best way to make sure that your kids are happy is to make sure that you are happy. So you need to take time for yourself everyday, even if it seems impossible and even if it is only a few minutes. When you are happy and have energy you will have more love and energy to devote to your children and that will help them everyday. 我有一个五岁和七岁的女儿，尽管她们是我一生的荣耀，但是养育她们却是头大的活儿。医生告诉我让你孩子高兴的最好办法就是你自己高兴。因此即使不太可能做到或是仅仅几分钟，你也要每天留点时间给自己。当你心情愉快充满能量时，你会投入更多的爱心和精力在孩子们身上，这可以帮助孩子们开心地度过每一天。 Hands On That's The Ticket. 亲自动手，正对路 Let them do something hands on. They will love it, and it is proven that kids learn from hands on activities better than other activities. Make it educational too! 让他们做一些实际操作的事。他们会爱上它，事实证明，实操活动能让孩子学得更好。让它也变得有教育意义。 Offer High Praise When Children Obey Rules. 高度赞扬孩子遵守规矩的表现 The best way to raising kids is appreciating them when they do something as told in order to make sure they will do everything you say. 培养孩子的最好方法是当他们按要求做事时给予欣赏，这样你以后说什么，他们都会照做。 One-On-One Makes Kids Feel Special. 一对一让孩子感觉特别 In my opinion, I think the most important part of raising well-behaved kids is spend one-on-one time with them doing things they enjoy. Every kid needs bonding time with their parents. 在我看来，培育举止得体的孩子最重要的部分在于花一对一的时间与孩子们做他们喜欢的事。每个孩子都需要与父母联络感情的时间。 Keep Calm In Every Situation. 在任何场合保持镇定 One thing that my wife and I have always stuck by is that we stay calm even when situations arise that make us angry/frustrated. If we stay calm our son stays calm to and it makes it easier to solve issues. 我妻子和我始终坚持的一件事是保持镇定，即便出现了让我们生气或沮丧的状况。如果我们保持镇静，我们的儿子就镇静，那么也就更容易解决问题。 A 'No' Alternative. “不”的替代 I never actually say no to my child. I tell them what will happen if they do something and then ask if they still want to do it. 我从未真的对孩子说过不。我只是告诉他们如果做某事的话后果将如何，然后我会问他们是否仍旧想做。 Be Attentive And Listen. 专注， 聆听 Children need to be raised disciplined and with a lot of love. Being attentive shows that you are listening to them and genuinely care about what theya re going through. Your child will feel comfortable talking to you about anything. 孩子的培育需要纪律和大量的关爱。专注表示你在倾听他们，并且真正地关心他们将要经历的。无论跟你谈论什么，你的孩子都会很自在。 Volunteering Shows Kids How To Give Back. 志愿活动让孩子知道如何回报 A few times a year, but especially around the holidays, I take my kids someplace to volunteer. This can be at a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter or, frequently, a nursing home. I aim to instill in them the pleasure of giving. I can see the result on Christmas morning: they are more delighted to give to each other than to receive. 一年总有那么几次，特别是将近节假日，我会带着我的孩子们去一些地方参加志愿活动。可能是施粥场、收养所、或是经常去的养老院。我的目的在于灌输给他们给予的乐趣。在圣诞节的早晨我看到了成效：彼此之间派送礼物比接收礼物更让他们欣喜。 Make Chores Fun. 让家务变得有趣 I raise my two kids the same way I was raised by my grandma. Kids are full of life and energy and they need an outlet for all of it, so I make sure my kids get enough playtime. Playtime translates into happy kids which in turn translates into respectful kids. They say all play and no work makes Jack a mere toy, so the secret is to incorporate play time in even basic chores; kids in turn will not view chores as work, but rather an activity. 我用我祖母养育我的方式养育我的两个孩子。孩子们充满了活力和精力，为此他们需要一个发泄途径，于是我给了他们充足的娱乐时间。娱乐时间可以解释为快乐的孩子，反过来也可解释为有礼貌的孩子。俗话说只工作不玩耍，聪明杰克也变傻，所以秘诀就是把娱乐时间融入到哪怕是最基本的家务中。相反孩子们不会把家务看成是工作，而是一项活动。 Eating Better Makes Kids Happier. 健康饮食让孩子更快乐 Well, I have to say that when I changed the way my family eats has affected every aspect of my children's life. About 5 years ago I switched to eating primarily whole organic foods and my children seem to be more alert, happy, sleep better and also seem to do better in school. This may sound weird to you but I'm telling you it has made a very big and positive difference in every aspect of raising them easier. 好吧，我不得不说当我改变我家的饮食方式时，孩子们生活的方方面面都受到了影响。大约五年前，我开吃转吃纯有机食品，我的孩子们因此而看起来更机敏、快乐、睡得更香，而且学业更进步。对你而言，这听起来可能有点不可思议，但我告诉你它在育儿的各方面都有着重大积极的作用，让你能更轻松应对。 Mistakes Happen. 错误难免 I think everyone has something from their past that they're worried might adversely affect how they raise their children. Once a parent realizes that this is a normal part of the human condition, I think it makes parenting easier because you accept that every parent can make mistakes. 我想每个人都会担心自己过去的某些事可能会对他们如何培养孩子产生不利的影响。一旦父母认识到这只是人性中很正常的一部分，那么我想教育孩子就会变得容易些，因为你接受每个父母都可能犯错。 Say What You'll Do And Do What You Say. 说你所做，做你所说 When my brother starts to act bad I take away something that I know will catch his attention. If I threaten to give his DS to our dog Sasha he does whatever I tell him to. If you say you are going to do something, you must do it. 当我弟弟开始胡闹时，我会拿走一些我知道能吸引他注意的东西。如果我威胁说把他的游戏机给我家的狗Sasha，他会对我言听计从。如果你说你要去做某事，你就必须做到。 Monetary Rewards. 金钱奖励 I find by rewarding my 4 year old with money its a great way to keep him on the right track. I also take money away if he acts out. He loves being able to put money in his safe place. 我发现金钱奖励对我四岁的儿子来说是个能让他规矩的好办法。如果他胡来，我也会把钱拿走。他喜欢靠自己把钱放在他的安全地带。 Have Children Learn One Thing Each Day. 让孩子每天学样东西 We've always insisted that once our children began school that they make it a point to learn one new thing each day. The kids loved the idea so much that they are now teaching their kids the same thing. Both girls have actually become teachers themselves. 我们始终坚持一旦孩子开始上学，就要努力做到每天学一样新东西。孩子们非常喜欢这主意，以致于现在她们用同样的方式教育着自己的孩子。两个女儿自己竟然都成了老师。 Whisper Instead of Yelling. 低语胜于怒吼 When I want to yell, I lower my voice instead. The kids (I have 6!) have to lower their voices to hear me. The lower I speak, the angrier I am, and the quicker they jump to behave. 当我想大吼时，我却选择降低声音。孩子们（我有6个！）不得不降低他们的音量来听我说话。我说话的声音越低，表示我越生气，他们也会越快地听话。 Treat Others As You Want To Be Treated. 己所不欲， 勿施于人 In raising our children there is one thing I always try to remember, treat others as you wish to be treated. It really is that simple. 在育儿方面有一点我一直试图记住：以你自己乐于接受的方式对待别人。就这么简单。 Kids Thrive On Interaction. 互动让孩子茁壮成长 My secret is to remember that kids are kids, not little adults. Enjoy their imagination and use it when teaching them the right and wrong way to behave. Kids thrive on interaction. Get down and play with them! 我的秘诀是记住孩子就是孩子，不是小成年人。欣赏他们的想象力并借以教导他们的举止。孩子靠互动而健壮成长，所以和他们尽情地玩儿吧！
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