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如果你能在自己的痛苦之身启动的时候认出它，你很快也会了解到，究竟是什么导火线最容易触动它，也许是某种情境，或是其他人所做或所说的事情。当这些导火线出现的时候，你要立刻认出它们的真实面貌并且进入一个高度的警觉状态。在一两秒钟之内，你会注意到自己情绪的反应，就是正在扬升的痛苦之身。但是如果你在警觉的临在状态，你就不会与它认同，也就是说，痛苦之身不会掌控你，而成为你脑袋里的声音。如果这时，你和你的伴侣在一起的话，你可以告诉他，“刚才你说的（或做的），触动了我的痛苦之身。”事先和你的伴侣约定好，当你们两人之中有人做了或说了什么而触动了对方的痛苦之身时，要马上说出来。这样一来，痛苦之身就不能再借由在亲密关系中制造戏码而更新它自己，它不但不会把你拖入无意识当中，反而会帮助你完全地临在。 如果每次痛苦之身扬升之时，你都能保持临在，那么，有些痛苦之身的负面情绪能量就会被烧尽，然后转化成更多的临在。这时，痛苦之身的余孽会很快地撤退，等待下一个好时机而重新出发，所谓好时机就是：你比较缺乏意识的时候。 每当你失去临在的时候，就是痛苦之身重新出现的较好机会。也许是几杯老酒下肚之后，或是观看暴力电影的时候。那些最微小的负面情绪，像是被激怒或是焦虑，也可能成为痛苦之身东山再起的契机。痛苦之身需要你的无意识。它无法忍受临在之光。 When you recognize your own pain-body as it arises, you will also quickly learn what the most common triggers are that activate it, whether it be situations or certain things other people do or say. When those triggers occur, you will immediately see them for what they are and enter a heightened state of alertness. Within a second or two, you will also notice the emotional reaction that is the arising pain-body, but in that state of alert Presence, you won't identify with it, which means the pain-body cannot take you over and become the voice in your head. If you are with your partner at the time, you may tell him or her: “What you just said (or did) triggered my pain-body.” Have an agreement with your partner that whenever either of you says or does something that triggers the other person's pain-body, you will immediately mention it. In this way, the pain-body can no longer renew itself through drama in the relationship and instead of pulling you into unconsciousness, will help you become fully present. Every time you are present when the pain-body arises, some of the pain-body's negative emotional energy will burn up, as it were, and become transmuted into Presence. The rest of the pain-body will quickly withdraw and wait for a better opportunity to rise again, that is to say, when you are less conscious. A better opportunity for the pain-body to arise may come whenever you lose Presence, perhaps after you have had a few drinks or while watching a violent film. The tiniest negative motion, such as being irritated or anxious, can also serve as a doorway through which the pain- body can return. The pain-body needs your unconsciousness. It cannot tolerate the light of Presence. |
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