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自由职业，乐嘉课程代理，爱阅读，爱果妈团队，果妈阅读受益者。感谢果妈阅读让我找到真实的自己。Sarah是一位单身女性，读着她和北极熊的爱情宣言，时空距离、文化习俗不再是拦路虎。Sarah说随着亲密关系的学习和践行，他们的爱多了一份坚守,更多了一份甜蜜。北极熊, 家有美国慈爱妈+挪威海盗爸。爱阅读，热衷公益活动，熟悉北欧和北美社会环境和教育制度，果妈阅读爱之银行存款的超级粉丝。其实，因为家人强烈反对，给我很大压力，我心里很迷茫，心事重重。在进行果妈阅读前，我本来已经放弃了这段纠结的情感。北极熊每天不间断发短信和一直打电话，但是就像单行线式的沟通，我都是避而不接的，几个月回的信息加起来也是寥寥无几。这样的压抑的交流持续大半年，两个人心里都很痛苦。果妈阅读六月份的断舍离主题，还有七月份亲密之旅就像一场及时雨，洗涤我心灵的尘埃，让我心里变得清澈明亮，更好的接纳了自己。我在加入果妈推荐的爱的银行存款互助小组前一直在犹豫，每天点二维码进去，看看群人数就退出，过了好几天都没有加入的勇气。因为我担心自己单身，而其他会员基本都是妈妈，再说我写的不是母语，万一单词和语法错了怕被其他会员见笑。后来我还是硬着头皮进群，看到远在日本的组长写日文的爱的存款，我终于放下心了。爱的银行存款对我而言，更加准确来说是还款，因为我真的没有好好的称赞过对方。从来没有得到应有的认可，这曾经让他很恼火。在他看来，如果真心喜欢一个人，表达爱意是很真诚和自然的习惯，因为爱不需要隐藏，要不然对方怎会知道你是否爱他。我只好用文化差异来做挡箭牌，说在我们文化里，谦虚低调才是美，过多的赞美多被认为是虚伪的恭维。其实真正的原因是我的爱之杯空空如也，很不讲理的求关注，求赞美，得不到回应就不停抱怨，耍性子发脾气，让他心累得无所适从。现在我才知道这些都是源于小时候没有被满足的需要，在内心我就是一个极其缺爱和归属感的小孩。所以我从来都是默默接受他真诚赞美的语言，并没有给予对方一个肯定，明明知道他很需要认可，哪怕是收到最简单的赞美也会很开心。在果妈亲密之旅阅读和每天爱的分享下，我慢慢打开心扉，用全新的眼光看待我们的关系，开始用心的去交流。他收到我的爱的存款后，觉得万分欣喜，感恩我的变化而且知道我愿意为他去做出改变，尽管这只是小小的开始，却让我们重新开始看到希望。亲密关系就是我们的无价之宝，就如果妈阅读分享中所说的，过去的创伤如果没有愈合，我们就会对自己产生负面的想法，但如果我们用健康的方式把伤痛处理好，我们的信念也会随之改变。爱的银行存款就是不求回报，真心诚意的付出，能让你更加真正的了解自己，是一种全新的体验。 也许你刚开始会跟我一样犹豫要不要加入果妈阅读，因为担心坚持不了，半途而废, 其实你不用担心，因为你并不孤独，我们都是在阅读的路上相遇。我现在越来越迷恋果妈睿智优雅的声音，每天的分享没有我刚开始担心的居高临下的感觉，而是一个邻家姐姐一样将书中的精华部分糅合自己的亲身经历和多年积累的丰富学识毫无保留的娓娓道来。 我恨不得一下子把果妈推荐的所有书籍全部买回来好好的阅读。还有更重要的是我们有将近1000的会员都把果妈群当成娘家，而且我们将会定时组织更多的线下亲子教育交流分享，我们一起鼓励，一起学习。 也许你现在很忙，暂时不能做到每天按时聆听果妈阅读，你也可以根据自己的节奏调整适合自己的进度，适当休息下再继续，因为所有的课程都可以回听。阅读并不是生活的全部，但是养成良好的阅读习惯，阅读优秀的书籍会让你学习更多的科学育儿知识，收获一个更好的自己，做到由内而外的绽放，还有意外的惊喜就是给孩子给更好的熏陶和营造学习的氛围。育儿先育己，育己比育儿更重要。感谢果妈，期待大家加入果妈阅读，这是一个大爱和深爱家庭，因为我们相信阅读的力量。Things will be worked out.Happy Independence day. Thanks for calling and sharing yesterday. It's not easy that things have been out of control a little bit these days, but I am sure it will be all worked out this week. And I trust you will figure it out as usual, Because I believe in you and know that you are so devoted and loyal more than everyone in the office for the whole year.As I mentioned yesterday that I have been so lucky and thankful to join an amazing online reading club which called Guoma Reading over 800 menberships since March. I am so interesting because in here I have a wonderful chance to expand my vision broadly and deeply especial in field about parenting guide with our awesome mentor Ms Li. In July, we will ready 4 books about intimacy, and finish homework by telling nice things or merits to our loveones and save them in our daily love bank. Its all about compliments, so I hope you are going to love it and be rich in heart.Thanks for your support on my reading project. I appreciate that you have been so supportive with all of my decisions, even when they might seem a little silly from time to time.Ha en fin dag, elsker deg. Bear，Sorry that you have to suffer this again. You must be painfuly anxious waiting for your mother's good news, after 6 hours waiting when she is still in surgery. /:hug/:hug And i know you would like to fly back to stay with her right now and take good care of her until recover like last time you did 2 years ago.Mommy is so easy going, and nice with good heart like gold. We pray for her recover and wish miracle happen.You are your mommy's guadian angel, I am proud of you, bear hug for bear. bjorn, I know you feel stressed now since your workload is so heavy and parents are not in good condition. And what I want to say is that you have great filial affection and take care of your parents all the time when they are getting old. They are lucky to have you and so am I. Take good care of yourself, miss you.you are the strength in the family. When they need you, you help wherever and however you can. I feel thankful that you never say no to me, even when I am being unreasonable and cranky.bear , I am lucky to receive your lovely words almost everyday. I have to confess that i have never give any compliment to you but only complain endless in the past. Now I know that because I dont think myself get enough compliments or recognition before I know you.Bear, you have shown me love and respect and have taught me about myself and because of this I have become a more completed person. Elsker deg.I have to confess that I never really reciprocated your compliments, but instead only reciprocated a list of endless complaints . But now I know that's simply not true . . It should be natural and unhindered, both of which you have freely given . Thank you for coming into my life and thank you for being you. You complete me. You have become my life, my love, my partner, my family and my closest friend.bear, glad to know that you are going to take leave and go back to the States for mommy today even you are crazy busy at work and have to work over there when taking care of mommy. She is the most important person in your life and she needs you now. Have a nice & safe trip home. Best wishes for mommy./:heartI am here always and forever.Bjorn, as I'm writing this, I feel a sense of relief knowing you have safely arrived and finally able to visit your mother in Texas. I know you must be extremely exhausted, mentally and physically, after your long trip.I know that the combination of work, family, weighs heavily on your shoulders . Take good care of her and know that I am here always and forever .Wow . That's so amazing . I look forward to reading your writings . Sounds like a wonderful course . I would love to join something like that . I think it's the most amazing thing to learn and expand your mind with people that are similar minded and working to enrich their knowledge and understanding about themselves and the lives they touch
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